The holidays can be a fabulous time but they can also be very lonely if you are single. I recommend that no matter how shy you are, accepting all invitations to holiday parties. You never know who you might meet. What is the worst thing that can happen really? At the very least you will have a night off the couch with living breathing people and maybe make a few new friends. Or you may just meet an amazing person looking for someone exactly like you!
If it has been awhile since you have been out socializing or your past behaviour is not getting you the results you would like consider these tips:
Socializing 101
DO:
When you arrive, make sure you connect with the host/hostess, let them know that you would like to be introduced to some of the other guests
Dress appropriately for the occasion, if in doubt ask the host /hostess (first impressions are so important)
Wear a conversation piece (It can be as simple as a unique accessory ex, piece of jewelry or a unique tie ) It will give others something to talk to you about
Compliment others ……….. (if you look hard enough, you will see something you like on anyone you would like to talk to)
If it is a home party, bring something fabulous to share, maybe your favourite appie or some great wine that can be a subject of conversation (it also shows that you are thoughtful)
Talk to everyone, including the couples, they may have an amazing single friend or family member they are dying to introduce you to
Ask open ended questions, giving the other party the opportunity to share with you
Keep the conversation light, ex. your last trip, activities you enjoy
Be positive, everyone wants to be around a positive force
Above all else, make sure that you SMILE so that everyone can see that you are approachable
DON’T:
Don’t put unrealistic expectations on the event or holidays
Do not vent your anger about your ex
If it is a work function, do not hit on your co-workers, employees, your boss or his wife
Do not drink excessively to bolster your confidence, nothing worse than spilling your guts (or anything you ate) with someone you just met
Do not talk endlessly about yourself, your accomplishments, or your monetary goods (no one really cares or likes a bragger)
Do not tell them that they remind you of your ex, (even if they could be their twin)
Do not criticize anything they are wearing (even if it is the reindeer sweater that grandma just gave them)
Do not hit on everyone in the party, it makes you look desperate or like a player
Do not ask anyone what they want for breakfast
Do not under any circumstance share why your last relationship broke up, (Cheating, lying, drinking, etc.)
(Women) Do not confess that you are desperate for a baby (even if your biological clock is about to explode)
(Men) Do not ask for someones number, say you are going to call and then don’t ( they actually believe you will and it shows them right away that you are unreliable or a player) Save everyone any heartache and don’t do it unless you are seriously interested and will call
The holidays can be fabulous, make sure and put your best foot forward and enjoy the season to it’s fullest and Never ever drink and drive!
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